When asked to be the sex and cannabis writer for kind magazine, I was excited to share my infused escapades—but then the world changed. A virus, a pandemic, a global and historical disaster. How much sex would I be having when the world was shutdown, protests were happening rightly, and we were all quarantined? Did I want to reminisce about all the wild times? As the world shifted, so did my focus, I went inward, of course with the help of cannabis (which I'd like to add became listed by our government as essential). Self-love, self-care. When I see those trending hashtags I usually roll my eyes. Who has time for that? Well, thanks to the current state of the world, I’ve found a little more "me time." (And yes, I see you, Gloria, homeschooling the children, but this deep dive into self-pleasure is also, maybe most importantly, for you).
I went online and started to fill my cart with infused teas and chocolate, pink Kush and blue dream. I thought to myself: "Ya baby, that's self-love."
With these uncertain and uncomfortable times, would I even be able to get out of my own head?
I arrived at my local dispensary to grab my curbside pick up, looking like a bank robber (quarantine chic) and grabbed the goods and headed home. I had big plans for myself tonight, and if nothing else, a great night's sleep. It was late afternoon, which was the perfect time to enjoy some pink Kush and a lil’ piece of Chowie Wowie-infused chocolate. Before long I had some tunes on and actually felt like having a bubble bath. "Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health," I’ve read. A smoke, some chocolate and a bath. I think I've covered the meaning of self-care. Now for the more intimate—relaxing my mind and my body.
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I'm not saying we can't enjoy ourselves without cannabis, and of course masturbation can and does happen without the assistance of cannabis. I am saying that what if we all took a minute to appreciate and thank ourselves without guilt or shame? What if we forgive ourselves and others a little more freely? What if the world was trying to ask for a pause, a moment of calm, to heal, change and replenish? Self-love. Self and love. We have one's self and we have love. What else do we really need? Now more than ever in our lifetimes—one love my friends—and even you Gloria, I see you. I hope this finds you well. Take care of yourself, my sister. May you all take a minute to be kind to yourselves and each other … until we meet again.